Activity Ideas for under 5’s

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Messy play is always fun but must be supervised if using glue,paints and small bits. Encourages focus and problem solving and good team work.

Puzzles are fun for children they gain so much confidence each time they get it right. shows good motor skills,  concentration and problem solving.

Dressing up encourages roll play.

Ride ons are a good physical activity for children.

Reading is important for all ages as it encourages speech development, listening and encourages children to enjoy reading.

Nursery Rhymes are good for teaching vocabulary and numbers.

There are lots of  fun educational games I hope to encourage in Super Star Tots 🌟

My struggle of mum and baby attachment issues. Creating a new venture.

I love my little one very much. when we are together she follows me everywhere and loves to mimic everything I do. when she wakes up she looks for me. The  my day begins if I leave the room so does she.

When my little one turned one years old I went back to full time work. I decided to leave her with a childminder. In the evening she is picked up by grandparents rotates between my mum and In-laws. Due to my long days. The idea seemed perfect. This also meant on my days off I wouldn’t need to spend my time visiting as much as family see my little one regularly.

However,  I expect the fist day back to be hard we had some trial days that didn’t go great. My little one cried all day. that made me cry. I really did question was I doing the right thing. Everyone said keep going it gets better. I knew we are better off if I work. So one year on. I am still working full time my little one still hates being away from me. Work doesn’t really accommodate motherhood so rarely get two days off together and I work most weekends and bank holidays.

Therefore,  I thought long and hard about making my situation work. I need to work to make money to live. But being a mum is my number one priority I want to be the one raising my child teaching her all the important things in life.

My solution being Super Star Tots. I am to set up toddler groups in Purley and Wallington area. I want to spend time with my little one giving her a child friendly environment and supporting other parents, grand parents, careers and child minders.

I no longer want to start my day with my little crying out for me. I no she is fine and looked after. I no 10 minutes after she isn’t worried anymore but I also have attachment issues leaving my little one. It’s so hard I feel like I don’t give her enough of my time.

I hope to make my business venture a success and enjoy spending more time with my daughter. Instead if giving all my time to a company that doesnt respect family life. A career should enable you family to grow, develop and enjoy new opportunities. A career should not take you away from your family or change your priorities.

My first toddler group is Wednesday 5th April. 9.30-11.30. Purley Quakers Hall. come and have fun. message me for more info. it’s  £3 entry. Refreshments and snacks included and lots of fun things to keep little ones entertained.


mummy and baby’s day out.


It’s that precious day off again. The sun is shining already. Baby slept with mummy again but that’s OK as a full nights sleep was needed.

I get up early washing cleaning all done to spend the day with little one.

I have no problems getting ready my tips are getting your little toddler involved. My little one helps hwang the washing sits on the side  with a sponge and helps wash up. When I’m getting ready I give my toddler a baby to dress and this gives me enough time to get ready. I have narrowed this down to 10 minutes! theno it’s the  little ones turn, I let her help pick out her outfit for the day. She also helps me pack her bag for the day with added extras.

It’s been  a lovely morning so a play date in the park is in order …burn off some steam and lunch in the park is always fun.  The football we packed is a great distraction technique for any situations where little one doesn’t not what to co-operate.

After the park the hope of a nap on the way to the shops would have been ideal but clearly not today little one hardly naps with me… it’s as if she thinks she will miss something.

we enjoy a trolley trip around the shops to buy so fresh vegetables for our dinner.

Little one enjoys a story about numbera and counting then plays with her musical instruments making as much noise as possible and showing me some interesting dance moves. Then the building blocks come out I am trying to teach colours and shapes at the moment.

Finished off with a yummy Sausage casserole for dinner with lots of veg.

followed by bath and story time. I am hoping for an early night seems as little miss refused a nap time. Then I can get everything prepared for my next 4 days at work.

Top Tips for soothing teething.


Teething can be the most difficult time for baby and parents. Most parents I speak to struggle find a soothing method. The problem is you can’t cure it. Teething is very painful and distressing. The are all kinds of signs of teething I didn’t no about. I knew about the red cheeks and the crying alot and the need to put everything in their mouth. I didn’t no that other signs where cold running nose and rubbing of ears. I also didn’t expect the temperature, some times teething can cause a very high temperature.

You can get all kinds of aids to help baby through this tough time. Some of the popular ones are.

Teething granules, calpole,  ibuforen and bongela.

The problem being this will only dull the pain for a little while the discomfort is still there hence the reason baby will still cry and put everything in their mouth to rub the gums.

I remember teething for my little one was the toughest time she had all her teeth by 1 so was OK after that but 8months to a year was a tough time. She cut two teeth at a time. And was up every two hours in the night.

I found day time easier as you can give a teething ring. or a frozen chube yogurt was very helpful to chew on. The fact that you could play and use distraction to forget the pain was a massive help to me. I also encouraged lots of water to help with discomfort and Bikkie pegs where very good for chewing.

The problem being night time. No distractions nothing to put in her mouth and the dummy was not a great help. At night time I found calpole and lots of cuddles was the only solution for my little one. I also stuck to our routine regardless still bath bed story and bottle  of milk.

I have heard about teething necklaces but never tried one with my little one? would anyone recommend those?

Working mums and Holiday pay and childcare how it’s supposed to work and the reality!

682aabadcaf489d257ea14fb8937170d.jpgOn my maternity I decided to go back to full time work. I have been with my company along time and always told people the biggest benefit was my huge holiday entitlement! which meant I had lots of time to take off to raise my daughter.  This Holiday was also to allow me free time to fit around my childcare weekends and bank holidays off. Thank goodness I do not have to deal with half-term breaks.

I go back to work and reality kicks in.

The signs where already there when the management team where no longer family orientated. They had been moved to the area no friends, no family and no partner their sole purpose was work. Which is great if you don’t have enough a family to take of. A toddler to exhaust you and a home to run.

I have ended up working every weekend. taking holiday is always an issue even with enough notice it’s always inconvient…basically the harder you work… they know they can loose you for two weeks.

This of course as a parent makes life alot harder.

I have come to the conclusion the one benefit of going back to full time work is not my benefit.  I had by December over 4 weeks holiday left to take before end of March.  This goes to show the extent of the company not wanting to give holiday.

This is one of the reasons I have decided to take charge and go independent and make myself self employed and be in charge of my own time. I aim to make my toddler groups successful and thriving. I wish to other other parents and careers support and advice. I the hope that these companies will no longer be able to run in such away.

5 reasons to take your child to a toddler group.

IMG-20160625-WA0032.jpg1. It’s been a long night. 

The first on my list is the long sleepless nights alot of mums are still going through. Coming to a toddler group means you get that little break without the guilt of leaving your baby with someone you can still see them and play with them but you are not alone. You can get tips of other mums and enjoy a much needed cup of coffee and a bite to eat. 

2. It’s low cost.

My group I ask for £3 entry which is avaerage to cover costs. It’s two hours play and refreshments. You can’t go wrong. 2 hours in the morning and will get you little one ready for a nap. 

3. Adult conversation

It can feel isolating looking after a little one all day get out and have some adult convosation. Break up the day for yourself. Meet new people and you child can make new friends good for preparing for nursery.

4. Child development.

A play group is a great why to teach your child social skills and how to play teaching caring and sharing. There are lots of fun things to do and you don’t have to tidy up! messy play, dressing up, noisy toys,  and story and rhyme time fun.

5. Support.

If you are a mum, dad, grandparent, childminder or career. Come and get some support if you need some tips or advice or just need a break from home come and enjoy. No judging everyone has their moments and parenting isn’t always a walk in the park.

How to demotivate a workforce? Take away breaks! – not a good idea… let me tell you why?!

I have worked for a company for 10 years. I have seen management come and go. They all make the same mistakes and wonder why they get no respect.

It is give and take within business. Yes the sole purpose is to make profit. However, how can you be successful? It is a common issue that mangers seem to struggle with. Inorder to make profit and gain efficiency within a workforce team work is essential and hard work should be appreciated. I have seen in my 10 years amazing people who come to work and go that extra mile everytime. Until one time they need holiday or the need a small favour and they are told no. Not because it will cost the business but because they can’t cope without this person so they refuse to give them the time back they need. the person gets demotivated and no longer goes the extra mile, does basic job role then leaves in 3 months.

Today we meant manager number 5 in 6 months. After seeing good results, team work and motivated workforce. the decision is made no more breaks to be given. where is this good management?

Firstly it’s illegal. The law of the land states over 6 hours of a working day entitles you to an hour lunch and a 20 minute break.

Most people work a 8-9 hour day and will work extra if jobs are not completed.

Being a full time working mum I need a break to recover before starting my second job as a mum.

I just think it’s wrong and I can’t believe this still happens. However,  the same pattern will occur it won’t work because it is wrong. people will leave everyone will be demotivated,  sickness will increase. A new manager will be placed… Again.

Anyone disagree????

The day off of a full time working mother.

I get two days off a week very rarely two days off together. I work 5 day 9 hour shifts. I always work the weekend, This annoys me because they don’t need me to work the weekend they like me to work the weekend because I am good at what I do. However, the problem being no childminder on the weekend I have to rely alot on family.

The fact that I rarely get two days together means I have to catch up on house work and the mounting of washing.  (hats off to mums who have more children I only have 1!). I also want to make my time with my little star the most important. To do all the fun things I want to show and teach her. Even though I’m tired and could do with a duvet day.

Today was my Saturday off and I make it count.

I get the 6.45am wake up call… my daughter calling me for a biscuit (never going to happen before breakfast but she will always ask). Breakfast at 7.30am. 8am washing to hang and reload machine. 9am stories and shape sorting. I taught my daughter colours we danced and played, made lunch together and went for a walk to the park. the day was beautiful sun was shinning and it was warm,  I packed bread for the ducks and we counted the ducks at 2 years old my daughter can count to 10. We were out all afternoon and played on the swings and slide. Running and chasing. I like to make sure my daughter gets enough exercise. I don’t think she gets much if I’m working, especially because I drive.

We are home now about to have a delicious home cooked meal with lots of veg. to finish of the day. Then our usual bedtime routine. As I’m back to work tomorrow. 9-6 on a Sunday. Looking forward to my next day off.

How do you make the most of your time off?